And sometimes there’s just not an easier way to put it.

Refusing to date outside of your race is racist. And I hate to be the one to break it to you, but your “sexual preference” is just racism working in one of its many forms.

Before we dive deeper, I think it’s important to note that this post is mostly geared towards my white readers. For we live in a western world created and curated for white people, and with great, undistributed power comes great responsibility.

Now I’m not saying that you must get with people that you don’t enjoy. Don’t want to get with someone because they’re rude? Totally valid. Don’t want to get with someone because they’re a little too into Beanie Babies? We get it, girl. Openly stating that you could never date a Mexican just because they’re not your type? Now that’s called racism.

And here’s why: you can’t just paint an entire group of people as unfuckable. Especially when these opinions are rooted in violence and oppression. To help break this down, I’ve created a small graph to show you what could be considered as preferences and what is just straight up assholery.

Preferences	Assholery
NO COPS	NO BLACKS
NO TRUMPIES	NO ASIANS
NO SCORPIOS	NO FATS

Now what’s the difference between the two groups? The examples under Preferences have never been systemically discriminated against, while the other group is small list of minorities that are constantly fighting for equal treatment. The only time cops and Trumpies face retaliation is when it’s in response to their oppressive actions. When you are a part of an organization that actively terrorizes queer people and communities of color, then yes, people have the right to turn you down.

And I’m sure to some white people this can come off as bit complex. After all, you like who you like! It’s innate! How are you expected to combat the billions and billions of years of evolution that came before you?

It’s called just doing better. And I wish there was way for everyones prejudices to be sucked out of them and eradicated, but that’s just not the case. It’s a progress, a constant upkeep, to unteach yourself what you’ve been taught.

So what do you do if you’re called out?

Don’t take it personal. Remember, whoever is calling you out is not just doing it for the drama of it all. They are usually 1) uncomfortable with your blatant racism and 2) trying to make you a better person. Instead of defending your lifestyle, analyze where these problematic opinions stem from. Question why you hold these beliefs; discover where you went wrong.

You are raised in a world and that inherently favors white people. It is your responsibility to sift through what is right and what is wrong. And how are you able to fix the problem if you only react as if you are the victim?